language barrier

I recently sat down with my male best friend to discuss his love life.  He was frustrated about the fact that he continuously dated girls that weren't right for him, or as he explained, "bat shit crazy".  From my perspective, the basis of his problem was simple: he had to find a girl who had similar interests and a lifestyle that complimented his own. I pressed him to identify his "passion", because after all, how was he supposed to find a girl with similar interests if he couldn't define them himself?

 Takeaway: It is possible that who he is and who he wants to be are not always the same person.  It is also possible that he is oblivious to this fact.